Hurt With Purpose


“In the same way the chief priests, the teachers of the law and the elders mocked Him. ‘He saved others,’ they said, ‘but He can’t save Himself! He’s the King of Israel! Let Him come down now from the cross, and we will believe in Him. He trusts in God. Let God rescue Him now if He wants Him, for He said, ‘I am the Son of God.’”
-Matthew 27:41-43

I was in line getting my dinner for the day when she blasted me with the question. As her lips made the indication of words about to spill out, I could already tell where this conversation was headed. She mentioned how horrible the Colorado shootings were. In my head, I thought, “I don’t want to demean the tragedy of what happened to small talk.”
The striking thing about this that was brought to my mind was how people deal with pain. Some people are numb to it in such a capacity that it only becomes small talk for them. Some people, when they hear of stuff like this happen in our country, force down the reticent cries of humanity, and let surface this seemingly apathetic manner towards the tragedy. What I have seen is that most people question. I have seen people flood Twitter and Facebook with questions of why God would do this, a question their aching soul has longed for a solution to.
The main question thrown around is this: “If God is so loving, why would He do this?”
My goal with this post is not to answer this question, but to provide reason to suggest that this question is not the question to be asking in order to deal with pain.
People place a condition upon God saying, “If God is so loving, why would He do this?” My question with this is why don’t the same people who ask that question place that condition upon man? Saying, “If man is so good or better off without God, why do they do this?” Because deep down, lodged in the deepest depth of our being, is the universal belief that we are not perfect, that we are not fine without God, that there is Something bigger than us.
By placing a condition upon God, we find our self falling victim to the same thing the chief priests did to Jesus in the verses above. They acted as if they knew God, but little did they know, God had a plan that would only be fulfilled through the pain and suffering of His Son.
I’m not pretending like I know what God had in mind with this shooting. But I know what to do in response. Instead of questioning, I pray that life can emerge out of this death, just like it did for Jesus Christ. Instead of questioning, I have the hope to move forward, knowing that someday, all the evil of the world will be forever redeemed.
You see, I only see the dealing of this pain going two ways: run from it and leave it to be forever questioned in our being, or face it with the reality that God is an all powerful God who has a purpose through pain. When pain tears away at the spirit of man, it either leaves the foundation of a thriving hope or nothing at all.
That is why I propose that we should not be a people who run from the question of pain of suffering, but instead hurt with purpose. The purpose that pain only makes us stronger by revealing our living hope in an Almighty God. In a workout, every muscles of your body only gains definition when you struggle through the pain. But there is no way to move forward through the pain without hope propelling you. The crux of my character, what I stand for, is only defined through pain because it is through pain my hope is most revealed.
For the unbeliever reading this, I pray that you can find the hope needed to answer the question of pain. And for the believer, I pray that events such as these may not cause you to stumble in your faith, but rather cause you to be modeled more like Christ. Because Christ had hope in His suffering on the cross, and that is what caused Him to endure it and move forward in order to bring us life.
Don’t run from pain. Be modeled by it.
Hurt with a purpose.

For The Love of God


“The goal of this command is love, which comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.”
-1 Timothy 1:5

His expression revealed that he was dumbfounded by what I thought was elementary. So here we were, me and a new friend, both confused because we approached each other from different grounds, different viewpoints. We were discussing our current relationships: me and my beautiful girlfriend, and him and the girl he was pursuing. It surprised me that he was shocked by the intentionality that I set in place for my relationship. But as he began to share his current predicament in his pursuit of a certain lady, it became clear to me that the reason we differed so much in terms of the way we approach our relationship is because we both have two very different definitions of love.
Now that I think about it, society itself struggles for a more solid definition of love. Too many times do I hear people vowing that they’ll give everything up for their partner and how that is love, but then two weeks later they give up their partner instead of everything. And then people mask over that with this vague statement saying, “Things change,” or, “You never know what is going to happen.” Then I hear a lot of people who adopt the definition of love stated in 1 Corinthians 13. But then I guess the reading of the Word doesn’t change them because they become impatient, unkind, and unloving. We live in a culture that is starving for a more concrete definition to love.
Yet because I have experienced the transforming power of the Gospel, I feel that I have a concrete definition of love that is present in the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ. I believe the primary reason me and my friend differed on our views of love are because I love God. Loving someone by loving God is such a distinct love that it contrasts the world’s definition of love. It is a love characterized by intentionality and foundation.
Speaking on intentionality: Jesus was intentional with His love. He didn’t come and say, “I love them but I don’t know if I’ll die for them. We’ll see how it goes. Things change. You never know what is going to happen.” No! The intentionality of His love saved our lives!
Now speaking upon foundation: the foundation I talk about is present in the verse above. Because He died for us, He made His love complete in us by giving us the foundation of loving out of a pure heart, a good conscience, and a sincere faith.
For the pure heart, is your heart inclined towards the good of your partner? And when I say good, I mean the good established through Scripture, not what is socially acceptable or your definition of good.
For the good conscience, are you keeping your relationship guilt free? Because true love doesn’t carry the burden of a guilty conscience. We get this idea from what Jesus did for us on the cross. Because check this out: Jesus died for our burden of sin. We were guilty but because He came and offered grace, by His grace, we can have a clear conscience. We can repent and not deal with that burden of sin! It is out of a clear conscience that we follow Him and love Him by obeying His commandments. That is why is 1 John 4:19 it says, “We love because He first loved us.” Because He loved us, He gave us the grace needed to clear our conscience, not so that we can mess up more, but so we can build a relationship that is modeled out of His love for us. So that we can truly love with a clear conscience. Jesus has forever cleared our conscience, but that calls for not putting our self in a position where we are to feel guilty again. If we truly love because He loved us first, our love should affirm His love by having a guilt free conscience.
And for the sincere faith, are you loving your partner by loving God? For if Jesus Christ is love, then you must know that true love if you want to truly love your partner. You must have faith in the one who makes faith possible. In order to truly love you must love that which is True.
So here is the kicker: without true love from God, one cannot attain this love with foundation. For what is someone to keep their heart pure for? What is someone to have a good conscience against? And what is someone to have faith in, if not God?
Here is the main question I want to challenge you with: Do you love differently because you love God?
We should affirm the love of God by showing that we have a love with intentionality and foundation. The foundation is this: that our love is formed upon a pure heart, a good conscience, and a sincere faith. And this true love is not possible without first loving God and following in His ways.
Imagine if our culture loved each other out of the clear and distinct definition of love given to us in the Gospel. Imagine if we were a people who were for the love of God. As people of God, we must love differently. Our love should affirm and point to God’s love. 

The Ideal Manhood


“If you do not stand firm in your faith, you will not stand at all.” –Isaiah 7:9

One of the greatest fears I have in life is that way down the future, one of my kids will wake up in the morning, look out the window, and see nothing. They’ll look at the sky and see nothing but a big blue expanse. And when the sun sets in that sky, they’ll see nothing but a fiery blend of warm colors. The grass will be nothing more than green and the stars will be nothing more than science to them. You see, I want my kids to wake up in the morning and go to bed at night confident in who they are and what they believe.
I say this now as I’m sitting in a coffee shop on my birthday because I can see numerous times in my life where I have woken up not sure about what I stand for. I would simply just get up and go do. I would go to school or work a nine to five as if it were to speaking meaning and essence into my life. Yet ripping at my heart was a conviction that to be a man meant not to just do, but to have my actions filtered out of my beliefs. This conviction was only birthed out of a holistic understanding of the picture of men painted within Scripture.
Too many times have I seen man not given purpose, so they work out of their muscles and their ability rather than their belief. Yet in Scripture I see manhood defined not in what they do, but rather what they stand for. Their life is not given meaning in their muscles, money, or cars, but in their inner workings from which their convictions arise.
There is an evident contrast I see from the men of Scripture and the modern day man that exists today. Today I see man (not all men) going through life not sure of what they stand for. Falling on their hard shell of an exterior are titles meant to give them some sort of definition in being a man. Give them some sort of shape rather than being a formless nothing. But sadly, they are deemed the perverts, the adulterers, the cheaters, the jocks, the prideful, and the villain. There are some men who are deemed honorable and noble, but if you take a magnifying glass to their life you see that this sense of chivalry has no backbone, no spine from which it forms its foundation. Man is given no shape, no definition in themselves.
But as I reflect on my birthday, I praise God that being a man of the Lord makes complete sense. It is the ideal manhood where someone could look upon the man and know not only what they stand for but also why they believe what they believe. It is in this manhood I see that actions are filtered through convictions and not the other way around. It is in this manhood that I can wake up in the morning and go to bed at night, knowing who I am and what I stand for.
It only took me 21 years to figure out what it truly means to be a man. It is not wholly dependent on age or ability. It is dependent on the very thing that speaks a satisfying essence into my being. Praise be to God and the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ that I am given a meaning. Praise be to God that I can look upon these past 21 years of life and not simply believe them to be an act of providence arising out of my own ability, but rather an orchestration of different instruments leading me to sing the praise of my Maker.